Changes to relationships after weight loss surgery often go overlooked by people considering bariatric surgery or other aggressive weight loss plans, and those changes can be both positive and negative depending on the situation.
On the positive side, you look better and you feel better. People you don’t know may start to treat you with more respect. You may be treated more favorably at work. People may be more physically attracted to you.
On the negative side, weight loss patients are keenly aware of overweight discrimination against others, which can lead them to wonder… would this person be treating me the same way if I hadn’t lost all of this weight? How do I handle obesity discrimination now that I’m on the “other side”?
In addition, people who you’ve known for a long time will not be used to the way you look. Could that promote awkwardness from overweight friends or family members? Could your spouse or partner become jealous now that others are noticing you more?
One of the best places to give and receive relationship advice is from other bariatric surgery patients during regularly scheduled support group meetings.